Why I Don’t Make Resolutions

Why I Don’t Make Resolutions

You may find this shocking, especially since we are in prime resolutions time, but I do not make New Year’s resolutions.  In fact, I would even say I don’t really believe in them.    Either you are reading this and your mouth has fallen open or you’re right there with me thinking “me either!”  So, which side do you fall on?  Do you make resolutions at the beginning of each year?  Let me explain to you why I don’t make resolutions (and why you shouldn’t either).

Let me begin by saying, not making a resolution does not mean that I don’t reflect on the year and set some goals for the new year.  I do!  However, making a resolution feels to me like making a “forced” promise that I rarely have actual buy in. Rather, it’s just something that is expected.

I don't believe in New Year's resolutions. Here's why.

Instead of making a resolution, I would rather make some goals to work toward during the year.  A goal is something that doesn’t necessarily follow the calendar.  It can change and get tweaked as life changes.  Also, a goal comes from a desire to make a change or to grow in a given area of your life.

Another reason I don’t make resolutions is because who needs the added stress in life!   I have enough stress in my everyday life.  I do not need to add more by setting myself up to fail with an arbitrary deadline.  A resolution, in the past, is one of those promises I make and then long about March, I forget about it or have given up on it.  What’s the point of that?

Have I convinced you to not make resolutions?  Instead, I prefer to really think about what areas of my life I want to improve.  Where would I like to make meaningful changes that will get me closer to living my best life?  This is deeper than a resolution.  Making these kind of goals is actually a process.  It takes some time to really get at meaningful goals.  Not the, “I’m going to exercise more and lose weight” kind of things.

Cultivate is a book helping me to learn to choose what matters and let go of the rest.

This year I found the perfect goal planner.  Lara Casey, the author of the book Cultivate, has set up on her blog a series of exercises to help you get to your goals for the year.  I spent some time working through this, and I have to say that this year I have set up my most meaningful goals for the year.  They are important to me and have been made with a lot of thought.  Moreover,  I have managed to write my goals and create some first action steps to get working on them.  These are not just some things I say I want to do, but then take no real action on.  I want to achieve these goals.  I cannot recommend this enough.  If you want to really do some soul-searching and reflect on where you’ve been and where you want to go, you can start here.

I don't make New Year's resolutions. I set goals. Here's why.

Are you wondering what my goals are for this year?  They tie in perfectly with my “One Word” as well. (I wrote about that here.)   I’m kind of scared to make these goals so public, but by doing so I guess that will make me more accountable as well.  Yikes!  Okay, here goes.

  1.  I want to cultivate, strengthen, improve, build on my faith life, my relationship with Jesus Christ by committing to daily time with Him.  Quite honestly, this is something that I have kind of taken for granted and have grown somewhat stagnant.  So, I need to make some changes.  (More on how I am going to do this later.)
  2. I want to strengthen and improve my relationship with Mr.LouiseMarie.  No, there’s no trouble here; however, as our kids are growing up and beginning to leave the nest, this is now something that we can begin to work on and give more attention.  One way I intent to reach this goal is by planning a year of date nights.  (More on that to come)
  3.   I want to add-on to this blog with an online store.  (cannot believe I am writing this!!!) I have some ideas that I am working on, but it’s scary because you don’t know if anyone will like or want what you offer.  You could totally fail.  Still, I’ve claimed it as one of my goals this year.  Here’s a hint…stay tuned for the cutest earrings coming soon. 🙂

Okay friends, there you have it.  No resolutions, but plenty of goals to work on this year.  And you want to know something?  I am super excited to start tackling these.  I am making plans and will be sharing as we go through the year.  I’d love to have you join me.  Jump on my email list here.

Now tell me, do you make resolutions or do you set goals?  What’s on your list for this year?  Share it all with us in the comments below.

Until next time ~

11 Comments

  1. I prefer goals over resolutions too! I love your goals 🙂

    A goal of mine this year is to spread more kindness – I have plans to send notecard blessings to loved ones or even leave some in public for others to find. I also have a stash of $5 giftcards in my purse to share with anyone I might come across that could use a smile to brighten their day!

    1. Author

      I love that idea! I have thought of notes often. I think handwritten notes are so special. Especially these days. 🙂 But the gift card idea….brilliant! Thanks so much for visiting.

  2. I’m definitely more of a goal setter, and I really want to get into the habit of sharing monthly goals on the blog because I do well with accountability and I think it’s better to break things down sometimes. Good luck with all of your goals for the year!!

    -Lauren
    http://www.shootingstarsmag.net

    1. Author

      Thanks for your comment Lauren. I totally get that accountability piece. It really does help you to stay on track. Posting it is a great idea. Good luck with your goals for the year as well. 🙂 .



  3. I so agree that goals are far more attainable! Thanks for sharing with Party in Your PJs!


I always love to hear what's on your mind. Please comment below!